Book Review – How God Makes Babies

Many parents (myself included) often wonder when is the right age to begin discussing intimacy, sexuality and biology with your children.  While there are many books written on the subject, few that I’ve read address it with such delicacy, simplicity, and beauty as Dr. Jim Burns does in his book series “Pure Foundations.”  In this series, Burns seeks to “lay the foundations for healthy sexuality” with “age-appropriate resources” in order to equip parents to teach their children that their bodies and sexuality are God-given gifts.  I had the opportunity to read and review the first two books in the series.

The second, “How God Makes Babies” is aimed at children ages 6 to 9.  While the first book was aimed more at helping younger children to recognize the differences God made in each of us, this second book spends more time discussing the “private parts” of boys and girls as well as more details of how a baby is made.  Children at this age are starting to be curious about their bodies as well as the bodies of their friends.  But the book wisely points out that “these special parts…are called private parts….When something is private, it is not meant to be shared with other people….Sharing your private parts is something to save for your husband or wife when you are grown and married.  That is God’s wonderful plan.” (pp.16, 17)

The first book in the series did not go into any detail about sex; this second however, does describe it in a little detail.  But even here, while perhaps the most uncomfortable part of “the talk,” the subject is handled delicately and without putting a lot of emphasis on it.  “When a husband and wife make love, they fit together in a wonderful way.  The husband puts his penis into the wife’s vagina. It might sound icky or uncomfortable to you, and that’s okay.  Making love is a beautiful thing meant only for grown-ups who are married to each other.” (p.18)

The stages of a baby’s growth are discussed and illustrated, including a couple of drawings showing what the baby might look like inside the womb.  Of great help is the size comparisons given to help children visualize how big the baby is – the size of a dot on the page, or a Cheerio, or an orange slice, etc.

There were several things I appreciated about the book.  One was the beautiful, yet simple photography that illustrated each page.  The photos didn’t feel overdone, but captured the simplicity and interactions of different people.   Perhaps most important was the clear impression that a baby, “from the very moment the sperm and egg join together,” is very much a person, complete with heartbeat.  Lastly, as the father of three children who were adopted, of especial interest to me was the inclusion that adoption was a loving option for some families.  “The birth parents do a very loving and wonderful thing by allowing another family to adopt the baby.  The new parents want to grow their family, and they welcome the baby into their home.  The baby becomes their child.”  (p.44)

I would highly recommend this second book of the Pure Foundations series to parents of younger children.

(Thanks to Bethany House Publishers for providing a free copy of this book to review.)


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  1. I just posted a song on fb by JJ Heller called “Your Hands.” I believe it will soothe your soul. My heart is broken as we8#2l8&30;…I&#l217;ve been a bucket of tears as I watch the news. I Thank God for without him I don’t know how one could go on after this horrible nightmare. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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